The cream rises…until it turns sour
We’ve all heard the phrase a thousand times. But I have a few problems with it.
Traditionally as the saying goes, if you do a good job it cannot go unnoticed for long. You’ll be recognised and rewarded accordingly.
In today’s world everyone is talking and publishing how good they are, or so it seems. Everyone has their own publishing company in the form of social media and a wordpress website.
It’s entirely possible that someone who is doing very average work who markets that they are doing an amazing job progresses faster and more dynamically than the person who is studiously producing a high quality and quantity of work and not branding that to their immediate colleagues and the wider world.
So step one here is claim responsibility for your successes. I hate to say it but women are the worst here. Come on girls let’s hear about your amazing achievements, This is something Marshall Goldsmith talks about in his new book How Women Rise. But men can be equally as bad too.
Learn to take compliments when someone gives them to you. When someone says “that’s great work, well done”, rather than answer “well it was nothing really and I had lots of help” simply try replying “thank you” and then pause for a couple of seconds to digest the enormity of that statement.
The beauty of the cream rising is that it is entirely in our own control. We can control the speed, the timescale and we can also control when it goes stale or indeed if it ever turns sour at all.
Through my twenties I was pushing super hard to get to where I wanted to be as fast as possible. First this was working as a full time strength and conditioning coach in performance sport. I managed to achieve this at 23 working as the Head coach for Durham University with the English Institute of Sport and I’m proud of that achievement.
Towards my late twenties it became about building a strong business. Something that makes an impact, gives me the lifestyle that I am looking for and over time I can sell for a sizeable sum. Although it took me longer than I originally envisaged and there were a lot of challenges (and still are) along the way it’s something that I am happy with where we are at both with Strength and Conditioning Education and the Youth S&C Association.
Now I find myself in a place where I am ready to launch a new business. The idea is there and the impact of the business is clear. I now need to get my finger out and see it through.
I am right at the point where the cream could stop rising if I let that happen.
Well I can tell you now, at 34 years old that simply will not happen.
But I do need to make sure that I am accountable, take ownership and absolutely make it happen. Something Rob Moore talked about just this morning in a timely linked-in post.
There are natural times in life when you need some outside help on this, even the most dedicated and capable. The challenge is to recognise this and actually then reach out. This is the intelligent way, very often we convince ourselves that battling on is the only way to go and there is a badge of honour in doing so. There really is not. All that happens is you end up pissed off, poor and very likely hating life.
Why would we choose to slow down when we have so much more to give? Let’s never turn sour and always keep on rising. I’ve no doubt you agree with me here.
The real question is what is the right strategy for each of us to do so. This is something that deserves some time, effort and consideration, wouldn’t you agree?
Keep on pushing forwards.
To your strength and success,